I remember my first breakup. I wasn't over it, I wanted her back, and I acted like a complete idiot. In the end, it just made her stay away from me. It wasn't all sour apples and vinegar, though. I eventually turned my life around.
However, a book like The Ex Factor Guide would have helped me handle that breakup a lot better. It contains a comprehensive guide to handling breakups in a mature way, and it tries to help men win their ex back.
There are a few things that I'd change about The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning, but it's a solid starting point for anyone who is going through an intense breakup, and I'm going to break it down right now.
What Is the Ex Factor Guide?
The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning is a book that aims to help men handle breakups more maturely. Let's face it; A lot of men get a little wonky after a breakup, and they usually scare their ex off even further. If you're like that, The Ex Factor Guide aims to help you out a little bit.
It handles a lot more than just the initial breakup, though. It also goes into detail about how you can get the girl of your dreams back, and it may even lead to you finding a new relationship that you're happier in.
Its Breakup Advice
The first part of the book deals almost exclusively in helping you refrain from digging yourself into a hole during the initial breakup.
If you've been through a really rough breakup, you probably know how many emotions can flood you at once. Those emotions often lead to men begging the woman to get back with them, doing immature things to impress them, or even worse, getting aggressive.
All of those things tend to push women further away during a time when they already have a negative opinion of you.
This section starts off by suggesting that you take a month off from speaking to your ex. Even if they try to contact you, the book recommends simply moving on with your life.
This is solid advice because it helps you get back to being your normal self after losing something that you really felt you needed in your life.
Besides helping you understand why a break is necessary, this section also goes into great detail about what you can do during your break to keep you from getting down in the dumps. It's pretty much a self-help section, and it's what I believe to be the most helpful.
Since a lot of the advice for your break period boils down to you moving on with your life, it can actually lead to you finding someone you like more than your ex.
That's one of the best parts of this section. While it's aimed at getting one specific person back, it doesn't tell you to put your life on hold, and it encourages you to get out there and date again.
The only thing I didn't really like about this section was that it ignored the many reasons that cause a breakup, and it didn't try to determine whether or not you should actually pursue your ex in the first place.
After all, an ex might be worth chasing after, but sometimes a breakup is for the best. For that reason, I highly suggest that you take it upon yourself to take an objective look at the relationship. Is it really something you want to get back into?
Its Advice on Winning the Girl
The next section is dedicated to helping you get your ex back. Brad Browning assumes that you're mostly over the relationship, and you can make mature decisions without emotions getting in the way.
If you continue reading and following the guide, you'll quickly realize that it's mostly telling you to make your ex jealous.
The vast majority of the advice is great. It covers things such as dating other women, moving on with your life, and maintaining a connection with your ex outside of the relationship.
That's all advice that I believe a lot of men can use, and creating jealousy through those methods is mostly unavoidable and passive.
However, a couple of tips teeter on the edge of being unethical and downright silly. In one particular section, Browning suggests that you lie about dating other women if you can't seem to find a date. That can make your ex jealous, but rebuilding your relationship on a lie is a bad idea.
Finally, the book hits its peak once you get your ex to sleep with you again. This isn't a book for people who want to fix their ongoing relationship issues. It's simply advice for starting the relationship up again. You'll be on your own once you get her in bed.
Extra Content Increases Its Value
When you purchase The Ex Factor Guide, you don't just get a book; You get a DVD course and two shorter books.
The DVD course is an NLP training video that can give you a little push during those first couple of weeks after the breakup. It's a helpful resource if you find yourself constantly thinking about your ex.
The two text-based courses focus on your grooming and your sexual attractiveness. While the rest of the set is pretty much only useful for people who have been through a breakup, the booklet courses are helpful for everyone.
Its Success Rate
If this has gotten you curious about The Ex Factor Guide, but you're a little on the fence about buying it, you'll be happy to know that it has been received well, and it has helped quite a few people.
The book itself is said to have a success rate of 90 percent. That's a pretty impressive success rate in the dating world, and the majority of people can expect to see some pretty impressive results.
However, you have to consider that every breakup is different. One of my main complaints with this book is its blanket-statement approach to breakups. Your own situation might be very different than what the book expects, and some issues simply can't be fixed.
Luckily, Browning shows integrity and honesty by giving you that information upfront. He doesn't try to guarantee you results, and he suggests that you consider your personal situation before trying to follow the program.
Pros and Cons
No book can be perfect. There's always going to be something that doesn't resonate with readers. However, I believe the pros outweigh the cons when it comes to The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning.
Here's a list of my opinions on the book:
Overall, I believe you should pick up The Ex Factor Guide if you just went through a breakup. Most of the information can help you move on in a healthy and productive way, and the tips for starting the relationship back up are mostly good.
However, it's a good idea to follow the right advice, and try not to do anything that involves lying. Also, be prepared to actually work on your issues if you do successfully restart the relationship.