Finding the right woman: it's a dream for many, but few know how exactly to go about achieving it. At the same time, numerous men spend their time believing that the right girl will come at some point and fix all of their problems. In doing so, they miss out on the biggest step of all: improving themselves.
You see, the right girl should not be the one to make your life; rather, she should be a welcome addition to an already enriching life. If you find yourself stuck in this part of the journey, read the following ten tips for creating the ultimate life and eventually meeting the ideal girl:
#10. Get Smarter and Have More Fun in an Exciting Class
Knowledge is valued around the globe for numerous reasons: it broadens your mind, deepens your empathy and makes you a more well-rounded person overall. Even better, most women will appreciate a knowledgeable man. Furthering your education doesn't necessarily mean hitting the textbooks and signing up for any old class at your nearest college.
Rather, education means discovering more about what you are already passionate about so as to become smarter and more successful at it. For instance, if you enjoy taking pictures but haven't quite mastered all the techniques that come with it, consider signing up for a weekly photography class. Not only will you improve your knowledge of photography, but you will also meet plenty of people who share a similar interest to you!
You can do the same with just about any other kind of interest or hobby you have, such as a dance class, music class or an art class. A lot of these classes can be found at your local community centers, which can also be an awesome place to learn more about your city in general.
#9. Take Part in Your Favorite Hobby With a Meet-Up
Recently, the concept of "meet-ups" has become more and more popular with people of all ages. After all, human beings are social creatures with "nervous systems (that) expect to have others around us." As a result, the variety of and demand of meet-ups has increased as well.
There are plenty of smartphone apps that revolve around the meet-up concept, with meet-ups centered on outside activities like fishing or hiking, as well as indoor activities like playing board games or checking out new restaurants. All you have to do is figure out what hobby you enjoy doing the most and find others who love to do the same! By joining in on these activities, you will increase your chances of finding a girl who loves doing what you love to do!
Even better, if you haven't found a meet-up that interests you, you can always set one up yourself. As host, you can choose what kind of people attend, how many and how often you'd like to get together with others! This can be a great way to narrow down which kinds of people you'd love to get to know, including women.
#8. Branch Out of Your Comfort Zone and Thrill Yourself
Another great way to better yourself and potentially meet an exciting girl is to try out things you may have never considered before. For example, millions of people worldwide use online dating apps to try and find their perfect match, such as Tinder, Bumble or Hinge. After all, it's easy to set up a free account and swipe left or right, all while in the comfort of your own room.
While many do find a great date through these apps, other men find themselves stuck in the same cycle of sending a message only to get boring replies or, even worse, ghosted. Instead of downloading yet another dating app, consider joining in-person dating events to spice things up and keep you on your toes.
Consider attending some of these fun in-person events:
Sure, it may be nerve-wracking at first, but you'll soon find yourself more confident and comfortable after taking that scary first step. Plus, at these events, everyone is in the same exact boat as you, so you don't need to feel like all of the pressure is only on one person to succeed!
#7. Get Your Business Cards Ready and Go Network
Networking: it's a popular in-person event for many good reasons. Networking usually involves a group of people with similar goals and interests getting together to chat over food or drinks. Typically, networking revolves around the goal of career development, though many attend just to meet new people in general.
If you are career-minded and would like to meet a woman who has a similar mindset to you, you may want to look up network events in your city. Even if you don't necessarily hit it off, you can potentially find some good work references! To get yourself prepared, print out some business cards and dress up nicely in a dress shirt and slacks (which will also make you look good in general!)
Some networking events follow certain cycles, like using icebreakers and circling people around to you won't be stuck talking to the same person the whole time. If they don't, make sure to branch out and talk to as many people (and women) as possible in order to widen your options.
#6. Turn Off the TV and Say Yes to Friends
You just got home when your friend calls you, asking if you want to head out for the night. You're a little tired and just want to binge-watch some re-runs of your favorite Netflix show until you fall asleep on the couch.
The only problem with that? You won't meet a girl that way!
It's easy for any person to fall into a similar routine that doesn't force us to go out of our way to try anything new. Unfortunately, this prevents us from the opportunity to meet new girls. If your friend asks you to go with him to a party or get-together, say yes.
You never know what you will find on a night out. In addition, group events like parties take the pressure off one-on-one meetings with people and encourage everyone to relax and have a good time. Instead of wasting another night on the couch, give yourself over to spontaneity and force yourself to get out of your bad habits!
#5. Get Active To Improve ALL Aspects of Your Life
If you have spent months promising yourself you will get into better shape or lose those extra few pounds, now is the right time to do it. If you need more motivation than simply getting around to doing what you said you would, you should consider the fact that you could meet an awesome girl while you are spending your time improving your body.
Getting active and getting exercise does not only improve your physical health; it's also been scientifically proven to reduce:
Suffering from these mental health conditions alone can prevent you from meeting anyone, let alone a nice girl. Plenty of gyms offer exercise classes such as Zumba, spin class or yoga that consist of people with the same desires as you. Not only are these classes a fun time, but it will also allow you to work out and improve yourself among like-minded women!
Keep in mind that simply improving your mental health if you are in good physical shape is a wonderful idea as well. You can do such things as talking to a counselor, practicing meditation or reading up on self-help books.
#4. Make a Difference in Your Life and Others' Lives By Volunteering
Perhaps you volunteered while in high school or college for class credit, but you shouldn't write it off as a one-time thing. Volunteering is one of the best places to meet people that are giving, warm and supportive of various causes, including plenty of women! There is also an abundance of places you can volunteer at.
If you always loved animals, consider volunteering at the local animal shelter, where you can often do such fun things as walking or playing with dogs. If you consider yourself good in the kitchen, try volunteering at your local soup kitchen. Even better, if you are a beach bum, try out a beach clean-up so you can soak up the sun, give back to society and meet some nice women!
#3. Get Ready to Have The Best Kinds of Conversations At Your Local Art Scene
If you've always had a thing for artsy girls, you will definitely want to head out to as many art events as you can. With so many different kinds of art in the world, you are bound to find an art gallery, museum or art event that will both pique your interest and increase the likelihood of meeting an interesting woman.
Don't fret if art in general isn't your thing. Instead of paintings or photographs, you can check out museums that are focused on other subjects like history or science. Other related spaces like planetariums and aquariums also act as other great places with many interactive experiences.
Many galleries and museums have exhibit openings involving plenty of mingling, drinks and food to break the ice. Bigger cities will often have experiences that encourage participants to interact with each other, such as through games or exhibits that require two people to experience them. You might just meet your dream girl while bonding over an artistic experience!
#2. Attend Faith-Based Services To Keep Your Beliefs Active
If you are religious, consider attending faith-based meetings or services to meet people with similar values and morals as you. Many faith-based meetings give room for plenty of speaking and getting to know one another in order to deepen one's faith. Some of the more popular services include bible study, guided meditation or church choir groups.
Faith-based meetings don't just involve discussion in a place of worship, either. They can include such fun activities as attending concerts, parties or group outings to the movies. If you have always considered joining a religion or particular faith, this can be as great a time as any to change your life while meeting great new women.
This is especially a great avenue for men seeking longer-term relationships or commitments, or those looking to finally settle down with the right woman for them.
#1. Get to Know Your Neighbors and Neighborhood in Community Events
If you live in an apartment community or a neighborhood that hosts weekly or monthly events, you should sign-up and participate in them. Not only are these events a fantastic way to get to know your neighbors, but you also can see if there are any intriguing and nice women living around you.
If there aren't many events occurring, consider setting up one yourself! Not only will this give you something fun to do, but you are also showing that you are a leader, an attractive quality in any man. Some of the most-loved community events include sports clubs, movie nights or walks around the neighborhood.
Lastly, many neighborhoods hold monthly meetings to discuss occurrences in the neighborhood, security concerns or ways to increase community engagement. While these may not be as eventful as other gatherings, they can be another nice way to strengthen your relationship with those around you.
A Nice Woman Is a Nice Bonus
The number of places where you can meet nice women is wide and varied, meaning there is a place for every man to enjoy himself while speaking with girls. Keep in mind that your end-goal in going to these places and participating in these events should never be just to meet women. You should go out to enrich your life, gain new experiences and deepen your knowledge. Meeting a nice woman should only be a great bonus on top of your new and adventurous life!